“What is my kid thinking!?!”

“What is my kid thinking!?!”

“What is my kid thinking!?!”

Confusion parent adhd addAll parents find themselves saying this at one point or another. Some moms and dads get to hear themselves saying this with a little more add, such as…

  • “I see other kids are capable of getting to school on time, why can’t she?”
  • “I could stop myself from running across the street at that age, why can’t he?”
  • “It’s like she is still 3 years old, I have to remind her all the way to her room or she’ll get distracted and it’ll never get done.”
  • “I don’t understand why, at this age, he can’t figure out a way to get his homework to school, even after he spent half of the night working on it.”
  • “It’s such a simple thing, take out the trash, but she acts like she’s wearing a lead vest and can’t move the second I remind her to do it (for the millionth time).”

If these are sounding extremely familiar to you, then you are probably dealing with a brilliant brain that is taking its sweet time to develop. We all develop differently, we know that, but some of us develop specific parts of our brain slower than others.

imageIf your child is doing these things, he or she may be dealing with a lot more than  you think.

Our brain is like an orchestra with a balanced combination of sounds, tunes, and beats. When working together, we are good to go. When one or two or three instruments aren’t playing on target, it messes up our ‘brain music’ a bit.

ADHDers march to their own beat. 

There is a particular section of the orchestra that is charge of “executive functions.”  Executive functions are essentially our  brain’s ability to monitor, understand, judge, plan, recognize, adjust and decide (among others).  You could think of an business executive….deciding on goals, direction, plans, execution, remembering, monitoring, adjusting, completing and evaluating quality.

Executive Functions (EF) are essential to our ability to accomplish the goals that we set.  We use every EF at our disposal just to get ready in the morning. When a child’s executive functions (EFs) are impaired, it creates barriers and holds them back from being and doing what we KNOW they are capable of accomplishing.

add adhdIf your child has been told a thousand times how to get somewhere in time, to keep their room tidy, to get homework in, to plan and pack for the day…….but just can’t seem to actually DO it. They may  be suffering from impairments in their executive functioning, and that is something to look into….before your next lecture.

EF impairments are involuntary (not within our direct control) and look A LOT like…image

  • lazy
  • unmotivated
  • disrespectful
  • lack of urgency
  • just doesn’t care
  • rude
  • mean

…..but it’s not.

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